Thursday, 3 April 2008

Asking For Special Prayer

I haven't posted much informative update on here because we have a skanky reporter in our town who has already beaten the life out of this story. On the off-chance that she discovers my blog somehow (thank goodness my Myspace and Facebook are private!), I didn't want not-yet-released information coming into her hands. Hence, the lack of information about my husband's accident or any progress reports.

It is now public media information, though, that the funeral is tomorrow afternoon. It has been a long journey to this point. It is unusual for there to be so much delay between a death and a burial but red tape does that when the cause of death is "non-natural".

I'm really stressed and I'm worried about tomorrow. While I know Steve is not in his body, it was the "huggy part" and I don't know how I'm going to go with such a final letting go. I've not seen his body and I won't. I watched him being brought out of the river (covered) and I have chosen to remember him as he was: unbelievably happy and full of life and love, as you can see above.

So many people have told me or written to me that they had never seen Steve so happy in his life as he was after he met me. I feel so proud that I could be that person in his life. That what I brought into his life was special enough that everybody could see the difference. I logged into his Facebook the other day to make sure there was nothing there and read a quick e-mail he'd written to an overseas friend. Part of it went: "Yes, I got married to Kristy on January 12, 2008, and it's great." He never knew I would read that but it touched my heart. I've been overwhelmed by the consistency of that report and it means so much.

The funeral is Friday, April 4, 2pm South Australian time. This is Thursday, April 3, 8:30pm in California or 10:30pm in Alabama. You can go here to convert my time to your time if you're in another country or time zone.

I'm asking you to pray for me, even off and on, from that time onwards. Please! If you can manage it, please pray for me particularly for a few hours. Pray that I will make it through. I don't want to miss any of the service; any of the tributes. I don't want to have to go out, however I do get kind of claustrophobic in situations like that. When I'm stressed and upset and physically overwhelmed, I start to get suffocated without fresh air. Please, please pray me through. I'm so grateful for all you people who have banded together to hold me up. Thank you!
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96 chattering back:

Robyn said...

Hi Kristy,
I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with media issues on top of everything else. I'll certainly be praying for you tomorrow before, during and after the service. I hope somebody thinks to record the service for you - I can only imagine that it will be so much to take in. Continuing to pray...

Jasmine said...

Hi Kristy

I'm a friend of Ali's. I've been praying for you often during the past couple of weeks. I will definitely continue to do so - especially tomorrow.

Jasmine

Gayle Smith said...

Hi Kristy,
I am a friend of Alli's too and just want you to know I have been praying for you and will pray for you and your family and friends tomorrow during the funeral. Thank you for sharing with us..you have so many brothers and sisters in Christ who are praying you through this journey.
xxoo Gayle

Natti said...

Another friend of Ali's here. We will be lifting you up to our Almigthy and Loving Father for strength and comfort for you tomorrow.
Nat :)

Stitchingmum said...

Praying for you already sweet girl

Karen L said...

Hi Kristy, I am also another friend of Ali's, and I want to let you know that you are constantly in my prayers, and I will definately be praying for you tomorrow - and will continue to pray for you even after tomorrow too.

izitjo said...

Have been and will be praying, even as I sit in church with you and our friends and "family" tomorrow.... and beyond.

miss~nance said...

And yet another friend of Ali's here. Have been and will continue to pray for you.

Lizzie said...

Kristy -

I don't know you personally and I have never met your husband, but I feel such a pull toward your situation...I can't quite explain it. We are fellow South Aussies (Adelaide) and though you don't know me from a bar of soap (*smile*) I almost wish I could be there at the funeral. I'll be praying for you.

Cheers,
Lizzie

Sal :-) said...

Hi Kristy, yep another one of Ali's friends. We are upholding you in prayer and will continuie to be there for you in prayer.

Anonymous said...

Hey Kristy,
We'll definitely be lifting you up today, girl. One thing the Lord has reminded me of quite a few times recently when I've really needed Him is His promise from Matthew 28:20, "I am with you." This has been a great comfort to me in times when I needed His presence. Hold on to Psalm 23:4, "Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: FOR THOU ART WITH ME; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me." Take comfort in our beautiful Savior's words in John 14:27, "Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid." And don't be afraid to put Philippians 4:6-7 into practice, that you may experience the promise found there: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus." And take Hebrews 4:14-16 to heart: "Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are--yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need." Don't be afraid to seek refuge in God. He DOES love you. He wants to be your everything. He wants to be your closest, most intimate friend. Don't be afraid to pour your heart out to Him. He IS faithful and He loves you more than any of the rest of us do (and that's a LOT of love). Take heart, dear sister. Finally, take strength from Joshua 1:9, "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified: do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go." You can be sure that there are MANY who will be crying out to God on your behalf during this time. Your brother,
Jason Cagle

Alaina said...

I am praying for you today. Words cannot express how sorry I am. I found your blog through Biblical Womanhood. Grace and peace.

Anonymous said...

Kristy,
I found your blog through a friend's link on her website. I don't usually leave messages, but I feel incredibly touched and saddened by your story.
God, in His wonderful love for you, must be creating a beautiful diamond in your life through this tragedy. He has an incredible PURPOSE for you!
I will pray for you as you start a new journey in your life.
When we are week... He makes us strong!
praying for you...
from Texas

Alicia said...

Continuing in prayer for you and your families, dear one.

Crystal Paine said...

Praying, praying, praying...

And will continue praying--especially during the funeral.

Luv you.

Sugarplumdreams said...

Kristy,

Constant prayers for strength and peace.

Much Love,
Liz

tootie said...

Yes, we will most definitely pray for you!! I really believe in the power of prayer, and I know our prayers can keep you strong!

God bless!

april penny said...

I am and will be praying and praying and praying and praying for you.

Anonymous said...

Praying for you dear sister!! God will be with you as you deal with everything.
Holding you up before the Father,
Pamela

Christie said...

Kristy,
I found you through Crystal's blog. My heart breaks for you as you are going through this right now... and though it seems impossible to understand, I do belive wholeheartedly in God's sovereignty. Everything He does and allows is to ultimately bring glory to His Name. Cling to that during this time of darkness... and know that you have many, many people praying for you. I do not know you, but I will be faithfully praying for you! I have seen firsthand how devastating it is to lose a husband: my mother lost my father when I was 6... he was only 32. He left her a widow with three young children. But God had great plans for the situation, and she later married my fathers brother. God blessed them with 5 more children, and used the entire situation to bring many people to Himself, as well as to teach us to trust in His sovereignty. I share this to offer hope during this time of darkness and despair.
In Him,
Christie

Rachel said...

Hi Kristy, I don't know you, but I found you thru Crystal's blog, though I don't know her either...
I have been praying for you and will continue to do so. The Lord will be your strength.
Love in Christ,
Rachel

Sheila said...

Kristy- I'm praying for you daily. While I'm about the business of my day the Spirit taps me on the shoulder clear in Arizona and says, "Remember Kristy." And it's as though His arms are reaching around the whole earth right now for you Kristy, holding you close!

love and prayers!
Sheila

Katie said...

I'll be praying for you Dear Kristy!

MM said...

Dear Kristy, you have my prayers. May Christ hold you very close.

Prolucker said...

Hi Kristy,
I wanted to offer my condolences on your loss and to let you know that you are in my prayers daily.
Alexis

lis said...

6:30 am. Just when my alarm goes off here in Jerusalem. Will be praying!

Antonella said...

Hi Kristy
I know you from your blog only but
I'll be praying for you through this horrible time.
Antonella
(Italy)

Megan at My Heart, My Home said...

Kristy,
Please know that you will lifted up in prayer. I pray that God will bless you with peace, comfort, and somehow as only He can, a piece of joy. I am so glad that God in His providence allows prayer to cover not only ourselves but others too. Psalm 91:11, "For he will order his angels to protect you wherever you go."

M. C. Pearson said...

I'm thinking and praying for you all the time, my sweet friend. My heart hurts for you and all who knew Steve. He must've been a wonderful person, and I'm sorry I never got to meet him. You'll have to introduce me when we are all in heaven. What a joyous reunion that will be. But for now, I mourn with you, and pray that God will just wrap you tightly in his arms and be a shoulder for you to cry on.

Kris said...

Praying for you. (((Hugs)))

nicole said...

Here in France it seems it will be the time I will be getting up(around 5 in the morning) because we are going on a trip. 10 hours in a car, You can be sure I will have plenty of time to pray for you!
You are really fantastic...
I understand why Steve was so happy to be your husband.
And special thoughts to his own parents and family...I do not want them to feel forgotten!

Keziah said...

I keep praying for you all...

Keziah x

Andrea said...

Kristy,

I am praying for you! I am so sorry for your incredible loss. I am putting a reminder in my cell phone to pray for you during the service.

Andrea

Anonymous said...

Kristy,

Sending you prayers for strength on this most difficult day.

the4moyers said...

Kristy -

I'm sorry you have to deal with the media on top of this! I will be praying for you throughout today and especially tonight (I live in California).

Tanya

Anonymous said...

I will be praying. Jennifer in Wisconsin

Amanda said...

Another person here via Crystal ~ praying for you at this time.

~Amanda

Candace said...

I will continue praying for God to give you strength and comfort.
Love in Christ,
Candace

taralynn819 said...

Grieving with you out in Southern Maryland. I am losing my father to cancer, but I cannot imagine losing my husband of 1.5 years. Your testimony offers a desperately needed perspective to wives everywhere: God gives and takes away, but while He gives, embrace the gift with all of your being.

Anonymous said...

Kristy, I am still praying for you, and I ask the Lord to sustain you during the services and afterwards.

And if you feel weakened tomorrow . . . remember that Christ will lift you up, out of Satan's reach, and even though you cannot picture our faces, all of your brothers and sisters in Christ around the world will be standing beside you.

I pray that St. Michael will walk before you, brandishing his mighty sword, protecting you from all evil, praying for you to Jesus, our Savior.

Anonymous said...

Kristy,

I will be praying for you here in Arizona. You have not left my thoughts since Easter Monday when I first heard of your devastating loss (through Crystal's site). You and your husband both have been entered into my church's prayer book, so the prayers of thousands here in Apache Junction are floating heavenward for you and yours.

May our Heavenly Father wrap you in His strength and hold you in His loving arms. You are not alone.

May the peace of the Holy Spirit fall upon you,
Shani

Sarah said...

Dear Kristy,

I came here from Biblical Womanhood (Crystal's site). I am praying that God would give you great peace in Him.

Encouraging words from Romans 8:

Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. And those whom he predestined he also called, and those whom he called he also justified, and those whom he justified he also glorified.

With love,
Sarah (praying from Dallas, TX)

Deedle said...

We're on our knees here in Wisconsin with you, praying, praying, praying.

And we'll continue to pray for you...Lord, grant Kristy peace, surround her with Your love, and whisper to her that You are never far, even if it seems so.

And also praying for that reporter to just respect you and yours right now and leave you alone! Gosh, that makes me so angry. What a horrid person.

Rachel said...

Kristi,

I am another Rachel who found you through Crystal's blog. I will be praying my heart out for you today and tomorrow. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

God knows your pain. His Son who was killed by the world He came to save. Both God's Son and your husband are even more alive today than we are, we just can't see them (yet!).

I pray that God will comfort you and give you supernatural strength to get through this.

kcjo said...

I'm praying that God alone will give you strength.

Adam & Mommy said...

We'll be praying for you and for Steve's family ... and for the reporter you mentioned to have a kinder heart.

Praying in North Carolina!!!!

Melissa said...

Kristy,

I will be holding you up before, during and after.

Continuing to pray,
Melissa K.

saremca said...

You have my prayers for the funeral and especially for the coming weeks and months as you learn to adjust to life while missing your precious husband.

Darcy said...

Kristy,

You have been on my mind so much this week. I will continue to pray for you.

Darcy

AussieinAmerica said...

Hi Kristy,
I came here trough Crystal's blog.
I want you to know that you can count on me to pray for you.
Stacy

Liz said...

Dear Kristy,

I am another directed here by Crystal's blog. I just wanted to let you know how very, very sorry I am for your great loss. I will be praying for you.

In Christ, Liz

Anonymous said...

Dear Kristy,
We are praying for you in Maryland.

With deep sympathy,
Carla

Anonymous said...

Kristy,

I linked to your blog through Crystal's. I can't imagine the heartache you are experiencing. You have been in my thoughts and prayers and you will continue to be on my heart - especially as you prepare for your husbands funeral.

Renee

Anonymous said...

I am still praying for you and will continue. I wish I knew what else to say. I guess I'll just pray and ask God to give you strength and courage for each day. Don't worry about how to handle what's down the road. God will give you grace for each day and you will get through this.

Laura

Julia said...
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jules said...

I just cannot imagine the grief you are feeling now. I just married my Husband only 3 years ago, after waiting 45 years. It is beyond my imagination how it would be to lose him now, but after only 10 blissful weeks, agony. Please know that even though I don't know you, you and your families are in my prayers.

Julia said...

Blessings and hugs to you, Kristy!

Lyn said...

I am with you in spirit. Take each moment - by moment today. When you are feeling anxious, pray and breathe gently in and out. I will be praying for you and also that God will be your strength when you are feeling weak & anxious.

Take care Kristy.

Lovin' Life Liz said...

Sending prayers!

Rosheeda said...

I dont' know you at all. I've read your blog once or twice. I, however, consider you family. A sister. Because we love the same God and He loves us back. (Even though right now it doesn't seem that way.)I want you to know that I'm praying for you. It will be 10:30 my time when you are requesting prayer. I will pray all evening and until I lay down to rest tonight.

Katie said...

Kristy,
There are no words but you have been heavy in my heart since I heard your story from Crystal's blog. I'll continue praying for you. Please take hope knowing that while you'll never get over this, it won't always feel so terrible.
Katie

BigDaddyandBekBek said...

Kristy, I don't know you, but I am touched by your story. I am so sorry for your loss and I am praying for you. I KNOW that the Lord hears our prayers and I know He will bless you. I am from the U.S. and know that prayers cross all boundaries. I also KNOW that it is possible for you and your beloved husband to be together forever! In my religion we believe that families can be together forever and it only makes sense...at a time like this there is so little comfort to be found and the ONLY way I have been able to handle the sadness and loss is to rely upon this belief! God loves us and has provided a way for us to be happy eternally with the ones we love! I pray this hard time will be softened by the knowledge of all of our prayers in your behalf. God bless you today abd in the days to come. I feel love for you and I don't even know you!

Tanya L. said...

Praying for you. May the Lord be your strength and comfort during your great sorrow.

Stephanie @ Keeper of the Home said...

Hi Kristy,
I heard your story through Crystal's blog. Reading your post brought tears to my eyes and I immediately felt led to pray for you. Know that you are being upheld in prayer for the funeral and as you walk through this incredibly difficult season of mourning, even by those who don't know you (but love you as a member of the body of Christ).
Many blessings,
Stephanie

Jessica said...

Kristy- my thoughts and prayers will be with you. I have been praying and have asked many people to pray for you as well (by blogging about you). We will continue to do so.

Mum-me said...

We will be thinking of you and remembering you in prayer this afternoon. May GOd bless you and give you strength and peace.

Nikki said...

Thinking of you and praying for you during this difficult time.

Just remember that God's grace is sufficient for you.

Nikki

Lacey in Colorado said...

We'll be praying for you fervently at that time.

Carina said...

Kristy,

I originally found your blog through Crystal and want you to know that here in Southern California tonight, my husband (A fellow Aussie!) and I will be lifting you up in prayer.

Carina <><

Sarah said...

Kristy,
I am so sorry for your loss. I am praying for you!

Andrea said...

Hi Kristy,

I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. I will be praying for your strength and courage as you begin to live a life without him.

Blessings and Peace,
Andrea

Mary said...

I will be praying for you at that time!

Saralyn said...

Praying for comfort and peace.

Anonymous said...

Many prayers for you coming from Kansas!

Jennifer said...

I hear your story through Crystal's blog and wanted to let you know that I am praying for you.

Sometimes on the Rock I tremble
Faint of heart and weak of knee
But the steadfast Rock of Ages
Never trembles under me.
(Author Unknown)

May the Lord draw you close and give you peace directly from Him.

God bless,
Jennifer

S said...

Kristy, I am so sorry please know that so many people around the world are praying for you. May the Lord be your strength through these days of sorrow. He does bring healing and the greatest comfort...

Rob &amp; Amy said...

Amazing...it is 8:32 right now and I just clicked your blog to check o updates.

Praying for you without ceasing right now..and in the days to come.

Sarah Ann said...

Praying for you Kristy, especially in these next couple hours. The Lord is there helping you, not matter if you feel Him or not.

Peggie said...

Having lost my husband while we were on vacation I have a glimpse of what you are going through.I will pray.

meetmeinthegarden.com and aintnoplace.com

Suzie M. said...

Kristy,

I'm here by way of Crystal Paine's Biblical Womanhood blog. I may not know you personally but please know that I will be holding you close in prayer before, during and after your beloved husband's funeral.

With heartfelt sympathy and love,

Suzie

Oaktree said...

I will pray for you Kristy.

Anonymous said...

Kristy,
I just checked your blog and did the time conversion and noticed that the service is going on right now! I am praying right now that the Lord fills you with His peace.

In Him ~ Christi from Texas

Rebecca R. said...

Back a 2nd time from Crystal's Biblical Womanhood blog to say again that I have been praying for you. It brings tears to my eyes and I hurt for you as I pray for the Lord to strengthen and keep you through this trying time. Hugs from a stranger!

Jeannine said...

I'm praying for you right now. (I think the service is still on or just over). Praying for God's love, peace and strength to surround and support you, your family and your in-laws during these incredably difficult hours!

da halls said...

I ache for you. I didn't read Crystal's blog until now so I am hoping and praying that all went things went smoothly for you. I'm sorry, but I can't think of the "right words" to say in the midst of this. But I do want you to know that I am praying for you.

Mary Beth

EllieNat said...

Prayers from California...

(Germany) said...

May the God of all comfort, Comfort you with the comfort only He can give. You continue to be in my prayers. Praying for comfort and peace.

Anonymous said...

Kristy:
I found your blog from Biblical Womanhood. I am sorry this is how we meet.
I will keep you in my daily prayers.
Melissa

Anonymous said...

Kristy,
Praying for you in Washington State. May God strengthen you and give you overwhelming peach.

Kitten

Laura Leigh said...

Kristy,
I have been and will continue to pray for you in Dallas, TX. Blessings to you,
Laura Leigh

Karen_thrifty said...

I just found you through Biblical Womanhood ( 1 hour before the funeral). I pray that God would pour out His strength for you. He's your strength, your shield, and your help in time of need.

Erika said...

Praying for you. I cannot imagine.
We were married in Jan 12, too, different year.

Brin said...

Kristy,

You have my prayers. I won't even pretend to imagine or understand what you're going through, but please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, especially this weekend.

"I, the Lord... will hold your hand." Isaiah 42:6

Christina said...

My heart goes out to you and I will think of you and pray for you often.

Ausjenny said...

Im late in replying but i was thinking of you Friday. I saw the notice in the Advertiser and you were in my thoughts and still am.

Kathy said...

Hello, I read Crystal Paine's blog and wanted to stop by to say how sorry I am for your loss. I will be praying for you during the days, weeks and months ahead as God lays you on my heart. Please know that many are uplifting you during this time. May God bless you with peace and comfort as only He can. Kathy in Florida, USA

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