My Life As A South-East Country Wife: Easter Tragedy

Tuesday, 25 March 2008

Easter Tragedy

Steve
October 15, 1976 - March 23, 2008

My husband drowned in a freak/tragic boating accident this weekend. It happened Sunday, just after 5pm sometime, and his body was recovered this afternoon. I have spent the entire time (along with various other members from both families), including nights, down at a river landing and only got home this afternoon. We had no phone reception unless somebody drove out a few kilometres (as was done periodically). Life has become a living hell.

I just wanted people to know where I was. I might be here. I might not be here. I alternate between a helpless, sobbing, agonising mess when there could be nothing further from my mind than a blog and a dry-eyed, disbelieving. aching calm before the storm where I can function on a basic level (as now). And I know that will be my life for a long time to come...

I'm terrified of all the tomorrows. Steve was a wonderful, wonderful husband and I don't know how I'm going to survive without him. I appreciated him, and he knew it, but I'm realising just how much of a pillar of support he was to me in so many different ways. He also was very affirmative and cuddly (words of affirmation and physical touch being his love languages!) and both of those leave gaping holes when taken away. They are both things that I thrived on.

If you can pray, please pray. God and me are on strained terms at the moment. There's many reasons why and those who know me best and/or longest will understand. So I really need other people to do the main work for me right now and thank you to anyone and everyone.

405 chattering back:

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Danielle said...: Kristy, I just heard tonight. My heart goes out to you, oh so much.

I have no words, nothing to say that can ease your pain, but I will be praying. truly I will.

I love you in Jesus.

Danielle; 25 March 2008 11:15 PM
happy little momma said...: Love you sister...Praying for you...all of us are...

Nari; 25 March 2008 11:46 PM
Kaz said...: Hug
Hug
Hug
Hug
Hug; 25 March 2008 11:50 PM
amanda said...: Kristy,

words fail to express . . . praying with you and for you . . . I cannot imagine . . . in tears and with sympathy, amanda; 25 March 2008 11:59 PM
lis said...: Elisabeth from YLCF here. My heart literally hurt when I read this. Praying for you.; 26 March 2008 12:21 AM
Sarah said...: Oh, Kristy... there are no words to express how sorry I am to hear of this tragedy. My heart goes out to you.; 26 March 2008 4:32 AM
Anna said...: I just came across your blog today for the first time, and my heart hurts for you so much. I don't know you personally, but I have lifted you up in prayer. Ps. 73:25-26; 26 March 2008 4:45 AM
LaLa said...: Oh, {{HUGS}}... I just came across your blog today through Sarah and I am sooooo sorry to read this.; 26 March 2008 5:20 AM
Rebecca said...: Kristy, I don't know what to say. There aren't really words that are really adequate. My heart aches for you. I am praying.

Blessings, Rebecca; 26 March 2008 5:27 AM
Tisra said...: I don't know you at all (found you through Hannah Claire's mom, Sarah, from Blogovers with Love) but I know that God knows you, He knows where you're at, and knows the depths of your pain. I just pray He makes His comfort real and known to you. Beyond that, I am truly saddened for you and don't have the right words.

tisra
http://lifetrain.blogspot.com; 26 March 2008 5:32 AM
Lynn said...: Kristy, I know we don't know each other, I found your blog on Sarah's(HannahClaire's mom) blog. I have no words to make you feel any better, just know I will be praying for you.; 26 March 2008 5:41 AM
Deena said...: Oh, Father...I have no words. Please, surround Kristy in You. Hold her close, even when she struggles to pull away (as we all tend to do when we hurt). Shelter her in Your healing shadow.

We always want to know why? Why did this happen? And yet, we can't. But we love You, we are desperate for You.

When Kristy cries out, "God, where are You? Where were You?" answer her gently, "I Am still here, and I've never left," and then help her to believe that.

Surround her with support and silence those who would hurt, either on purpose or accidentally. Flood her soul with Your supernatural peace, and be her Abba.

Walk her through this, God. I know You will never let her go...remind her of that, gently and softly.

Amen.

((((((((((((warm hugs of love))))))))); 26 March 2008 6:28 AM
Tracy Ruckman said...: My heart breaks for you, Kristy. May God surround you during this tough time, carrying you and comforting you as no one else can.

(((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))

Tracy; 26 March 2008 6:37 AM
LindaLeeper said...: Kristy,
I will be praying for you.
How awful for you...
I am so sorry!
With deepest sympathy
{{{{{hugs}}}},
Linda
homeschoolblogger.com/faithfulgrace; 26 March 2008 6:52 AM
carla stewart said...: Kristy, I'm praying for you here in Tulsa, Oklahoma. I know your heart is broken and words are inadequate at this time.
Love, Carla; 26 March 2008 7:17 AM
Kelli said...: Praying for you in Indiana. I am so sorry for your loss.; 26 March 2008 7:32 AM
M. C. Pearson said...: I will keep on praying, Kristy.; 26 March 2008 9:07 AM
Jackie said...: I know you don't know me but I wanted to add my deepest and sincere condolences. I'm so sorry for your loss. You're in my prayers.; 26 March 2008 9:13 AM
Queen B said...: I am so sorry.

You are in my prayers.; 26 March 2008 9:16 AM
Vader's Mom said...: You are in my thoughts and prayers.; 26 March 2008 9:19 AM
Rel said...: Kristy - I am so sad for you in this awful situation. Praying you can feel God's arms around you even as you struggle with why this tragedy has happened. Praying hard for you and your family.; 26 March 2008 9:31 AM
Stitchingmum said...: Kristy, I have no words that will help right now, but I'm going into bat for you, to pray when you can't (and when you can), I pray I can be God's light for you in the times to come. I'm here for you, anything you need at anytime. Nothing can separate you from God, He will be there no matter how you feel, (Romans 8:35-39), because He loves you 'I am not distant and angry, but am the complete expression of love.' (1 John 4:16). He won't let you fall Kristy, and it's ok to question Him and His will, but He won't let go of you 'Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.' (Psalm 55:22).
I know these words may seem empty now, I hope you can come back to them in the time to come and seek refuge in the words He has written for you.; 26 March 2008 9:34 AM
Tara said...: I'll be praying for you during this time of tragedy.; 26 March 2008 9:36 AM
Susan Stitch said...: I can't imagine your devastation. We'll take care of the praying, you just keep putting one foot in front of the other...one step at a time.

Praying in Missouri for your strength, peace, and understanding; 26 March 2008 9:37 AM
C.J. Darlington said...: Tonight as I'm going to sleep you can know that someone will be praying for you.; 26 March 2008 9:43 AM
Rulan said...: This is so sad. My heart goes out to you. Will pray.; 26 March 2008 9:50 AM
Merrie Destefano said...: Kristy,
You and I have never met. We live on different continents. But we have the God and the same hope and the same savior.

I will be praying for you, sweetie. I can tell by your post how much you truly love your husband and how much he means to you. I admire your honesty and the fact that you were willing to be so raw in your post.

God is listening. And I am praying for my sweet sister who lives so very far away.

Blessings,
Merrie Destefano; 26 March 2008 10:03 AM
Troy Young said...: Lord God, maker of all, giver of life. Please wrap your loving arms around Kristy and her family and all the extended family and friends of this wonderful man you have taken home. We don't know why you took him so early. We don't understand. We miss him. Our hearts ache...and we have so many questions. But we trust you. We trust in your goodness. We trust in your grace. And we trust in your peace and comfort that we know you will bring.

We ask for your hand to be on all the family and friends of Steve Walker. We ask for Your peace to surround his dear wife, Kristy, other family, and friends as they seek You during this time. Help them to know your love like never before. And help all those who know them to be the arms and hands and feet and comforting words of Jesus to these dear ones today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.; 26 March 2008 10:17 AM
lynnae said...: Kristy, I found out about your tragedy from Mimi at FIRST Blog Alliance. I know I don't know you, but I am praying that God is your strength as you go through this difficult time.; 26 March 2008 10:19 AM
Camy Tang said...: I'm so sorry to hear about this, Kristy. I'll be praying for you.
Camy; 26 March 2008 10:26 AM
Laura @ Laura Williams' Musings said...: Kristy,

I just learned of the heart-wrenching news from a fellow CFBA'er and Mimi from FIRST. My heart goes out to you. My prayers are with you and all the family right now.

Laura; 26 March 2008 10:30 AM
Kim said...: I am a fellow FIRST blogger. I love you and will be lifting you and your family up in prayer during this most difficult time!!

Standing in the gap,
Kim; 26 March 2008 10:35 AM
Donna Moore said...: Kristy, I am hurting with you. I read the verse Isaiah 55:9
"As the hevens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts." We don't understand the "whys" of this life becasue our own understanding is just a glimpse of God's. I am praying for you and your family.; 26 March 2008 10:38 AM
CherryBlossomMJ said...: I can't imagine how you feel. I'm praying that God will show you a way to make him your strong hold and get you through the day-to-day.
MJ
Abide with me; fast falls the eventide; The darkness deepens; Lord, with me abide! When other helpers fail and comforts flee, Help of the helpless, O abide with me. Swift to its close ebbs out life's little day; Earth's joy grow dim; its glories pass away; Change and decay in all around I see; O Thou who changest not, abide with me. I need Thy presence every passing hour, What but They grace can foil the tempter's power? Who, like Thyself, my guide and stay can be? Through cloud and sunshine, Lord, abide with me. I fear no foe, with Thee at hand to bless; Ills have no weight, and tears no bitterness. Where is death's sting? Where, grave, they victory? I triumph still, if Thou abide with me. Hold Thou Thy cross before my closing eyes; Shine through the gloom and point me to the skies; Heaven's morning breaks, and earth's vain shadows flee; In life, in death, O Lord, abide with me. - Henry Francis Lyte (1793-1847); 26 March 2008 10:42 AM
Ausjenny said...: Kirsty Im praying for you i saw the reports but didn't realize it was your husband.
Praying God will sustain you and be there for you even when you cant feel him.; 26 March 2008 10:45 AM
BooksforLife said...: I'll be praying for you! Everything happens for God and he can use this to turn your life around and you can show your love to all those who don't know him!

Jesus loves you very much!

~Books; 26 March 2008 10:48 AM
alihsee said...: I'm so sorry Kristy.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Keep relying on God - he is your one stronghold in times of trouble.

Love in Christ.; 26 March 2008 11:00 AM
Christopher Hopper said...: The Hopper Clan in NY is interceding for you.

Tragedy is unexplainable, and yet we find Jesus in the midst of it. I don't know how we have lived through what we have. "Adjust and carry on," rings in my ears.

That is all. We love you and are broken with you. May God's healing power flow...His resurrection power in your lives.

Your new friends,

Christopher, Jennifer, Evangeline & Luik; 26 March 2008 11:15 AM
David Meigs said...: Prayers going up!; 26 March 2008 11:28 AM
Dawn said...: Kristy,
I'm praying for you.

Dawn; 26 March 2008 11:34 AM
Bonnie Calhoun said...: I am praying for you Kristy that God will comfort you in this difficult time. There are no words that can ease your sorrow right now, but I will continue to pray!

Father, in the precious Name of Jesus, I ask you to uplift Kristy, and hold her in Your loving arms. Give her your strength Father, and let her know that she is never alone. Help her to face this trial, and give her Your grace to preservere in the face of this tragedy.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Phil 4:13; 26 March 2008 11:34 AM
Deborah said...: my family and i are keeping you in our prayers. I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could do to help you . *hugs*

just know that there are people all over the world praying for you.; 26 March 2008 11:38 AM
Ruth said...: Kristy,
I come here via the FIRST Blog Alliance...I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I'll pray for you.
Love in Christ,
Ruth; 26 March 2008 11:42 AM
Craig, Judy, and Andrew said...: Kristy,

My heart just aches for you and all that you must be going through right now. You don't know me - I met you through Journey to Hannah Claire - but I'm going to lift up a prayer to God for you right now. I don't know the right words to bring you comfort, but I know that God will give you strength day by day to make it through.

- Judy K.
www.wonderchildherewecome.blogspot.com; 26 March 2008 11:47 AM
CWAHM said...: Kristy,

I am SO sorry for your loss and pain. I'm praying!!; 26 March 2008 11:52 AM
Ty said...: Hey Kristy,
I'm a fellow FIRST member. My heart and prayers go out to you! May the Comforter bring you deep comfort and peace during this time.
-- Ty; 26 March 2008 11:52 AM
Karen and Rachel and family said...: We love you so much, and even through this, God loves you so much more than we can imagine.
We can't comprehend why this has happened, either, but all we can do is pray and rest in God's presence, as hard as that may be right now.
Much love and many prayers,
Love Karen and Rachel and family.; 26 March 2008 11:58 AM
Erica Vetsch said...: My thoughts and prayers are with you.; 26 March 2008 12:11 PM
Andrea said...: Dear Sister,
What a beautiful picture of your husband. His smile is like the sun. My heart aches for you.
Noone can understand this type of loss. We are all praying for you, and we will all be here if you need us.; 26 March 2008 12:14 PM
Kelly Klepfer said...: Kristy,

I ache for you. You have my prayers. What an awful, awful thing. And how brave you are to even by typing your jumbled thoughts instead of in the fetal position.; 26 March 2008 12:16 PM
Lundie said...: I am so sorry for your loss.; 26 March 2008 12:16 PM
Mocha with Linda said...: I'm a fellow CFBA member. Sending love, hugs, and prayers from Texas. Praying that God will sustain you and surround you with His loving care and abiding peace. My heart aches for you in this new journey you are on. Rest assured that though the way is dark, He is with you every step of the way.; 26 March 2008 12:18 PM
JSG said...: Lump in the throat,
tear in the eye,
plus a whole heap of other stuff
Praying for you
and praying for the W*/G*
family; 26 March 2008 12:19 PM
Tiffany said...: Kristy,
My heart truly aches for you I came across your blog through Journey to hannah Claire. I will be praying for you during this difficult time.

Tiffany; 26 March 2008 12:22 PM
Janna said...: Kristy,
I am so sorry to hear about this tragedy and while words can't begin to ease any of your pain, just know that you are not alone and I am praying for you here in Nebraska...

Fellow CFBA and FIRST blogger,

Janna; 26 March 2008 12:22 PM
Gina Conroy said...: I'm a CFBAer and FIRST member offering up prayers!; 26 March 2008 12:24 PM
Sal :-) said...: Jeremiah 29:11-12 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me, and come and pray to me, I will listen to you.

Kristy you are in my prayers and I am so sorry at the tragic loss of Steve. I know that when you have the strength to come back to Him, he will listen to you and whilst the path now is so foggy and full of pain, He will bring you hope and a future.; 26 March 2008 12:28 PM
Pam said...: Hello Kristy, I am a fellow CFBAer and just wanted to let you know I will be praying for you.; 26 March 2008 12:29 PM
Hisart777 said...: I can not fathom the pain you must be feeling, but I know who does and He loves you very much.

So I lift you up in prayer to the One who knows you and your pain.

Be Blessed my sister in Christ!

{CFBA}; 26 March 2008 12:31 PM
Michelle said...: Kristy, my heart is crying with you. What a tremendous loss! I can't imagine and thus I will be thinking of you and praying for your emotional healing. It will take time, no doubt. If I lived near you I'd give you a hug, a listening ear, and a shoulder. Since I can't I'm sending cyberhugs from Arizona!; 26 March 2008 12:32 PM
Georgiana said...: Kristy, even though I don't know you personally, my heart aches for you. I'm praying for you and your loved ones.; 26 March 2008 12:38 PM
Peggy Blann Phifer said...: Kristy, I am so very sorry. As many have already said, words aren't enough, even if there were some that would soothe and comfort. They're mere words.

But prayer availeth much! And we're all committing to doing just that. May our Lord wrap His arms about you and hold you gently as only He can. May you rest secure and warm under His wings.

Your sister in Christ,

Peg (member of CFBA and FIRST); 26 March 2008 12:47 PM
Alexis Jacobs said...: My thoughts and prayers to you and your family. May you find some peace in this difficult time.

Alexis (CFBA and FIRST); 26 March 2008 12:57 PM
Jennifer AlLee said...: Kristy, I can't even begin to imagine the pain you must be going through. I pray that Christ, our Bridegroom, will take you in His loving embrace and carry you through this dark time.

Your fellow CFBA sister in Nevada,
Jen; 26 March 2008 12:59 PM
Pais Charos said...: I came across your blog through Mimi and FIRST. I'm so sorry. I will be praying for you, and I grieve for you. God will lift you up and carry you through this. *HUGS*

~ Connie; 26 March 2008 1:04 PM
Vennessa said...: I'm so sorry, Kristy. I'm praying for you down here in NZ.; 26 March 2008 1:18 PM
Takiela, the redeemed sinner...not the drink. said...: Kristy, I am SO sorry. I am praying for you. If there is anything I can do please let me know. With the love of God, Takiela.; 26 March 2008 1:21 PM
LaShaunda said...: Kristy,

My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Lord,

You said there would be days when you carried us. Please hold on to Kristy. Let her know that you are still there for her and you'll be her strenghth and comfort when she needs it.

Kristy hold on to the Lord especialy on those days you want to let him go. Jesus never leaves.; 26 March 2008 1:35 PM
SandieAndie said...: Dear Kristy,

There are no words to ease the pain you must be feeling right now. Know that my heart goes out to you and your families. I will pray for you all during this time.

Dear Heavenly Father, I ask that you wrap your loving arms around Kristy and let her know that you have her in the palm of your hand. Give her peace that passes all understanding and comfort that only you can. May she sense your presence Lord in a way that only you can make known to her. Give her strength to get through the next seconds, minutes, and hours.
Bring people that will guide her through what needs to be done.
I love you Lord, and I leave this in your hands.

Loving you in Jesus name,
Andie; 26 March 2008 1:39 PM
Michelle K said...: That is so terrible, I can't imagine...I'm praying for you!! Hugs!; 26 March 2008 1:40 PM
Carola... said...: I came upon this just now. I'm not sure if it'll help... but I thought it might, somehow, perhaps not today...

xx Carola

A Child Loaned
"I'll lend you for a little time
A child of Mine." He said.
"For you to love the while he lives
And mourn for when he's dead.
It may be six or seven year
Or twenty-two or three
But will you, till I call him back
Take care of him for Me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you
And should his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories
As solace for your grief.

I cannot promise he will stay
Since all from Earth return,
But there are lessons taught down there
I want the child to learn.
I've looked this wide world over
In my search for teacher's true,
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,
I have selected you;
Now will you give him all your love,
Nor think the labour vain
Nor hate Me when I come to call
And take him back again?

I fancied that I heard them say,
"Dear Lord, They will be done,
For all the joy Thy child shall bring,
For the risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness,
We'll love him while we may,
And for the happiness we've known,
Forever grateful stay.
But should the angels call for him
Much sooner than we planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes
And try to understand."

Anonymous; 26 March 2008 1:42 PM
Page McManus said...: Kristy, my heart aches for you. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through and have no words of wisdom to offer. Who can see the good in this?

Praying that God will keep you, sustain you and hold you up when you can't bear to take another step or look on another day without your beloved.

I pray that He will somehow show you Himself today.; 26 March 2008 1:44 PM
Vicki Tiede said...: I am praying that God will be your strength, comfort and light in these dark days.; 26 March 2008 1:49 PM
Delia said...: (((hugs))) I'm so sorry this happened! I'm praying for you!; 26 March 2008 1:54 PM
So Many Books... said...: I'm so sorry. *big hug*; 26 March 2008 1:58 PM
Oaktree said...: I came across your blog tonight and I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine what you are feeling and experiencing. I will pray for you, your family, and Steve's family. And I pray that Steve is at peace. Much love, Donna; 26 March 2008 2:08 PM
Magma said...: I'll pray for you
*hugs*; 26 March 2008 2:30 PM
Dineen A. Miller said...: Praying for you, Kristy. I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs and blessings.; 26 March 2008 2:37 PM
Crazy English Lady said...: My Darling Kristy,

My eyes are wet, my heart aches, I feel numb - I cannot even 'begin' to imagine your pain my Darling. Steve was your Knight and you were his Princess..I am upholding you and all those who loved Steve with prayer. I am here for you all when you need me. Joannaxxxxx; 26 March 2008 2:45 PM
Cheryl Klarich said...: Thank you for letting us pray for you. I am so sorry for your loss.; 26 March 2008 2:55 PM
belledi said...: May he rest in peace. And let perpetual Light shine up him!; 26 March 2008 3:21 PM
Anonymous said...: Dear Kristy,
I just got the news via email this morning. We are on the way to Port Moresby from Alotau.

We are so sorry to hear the news.

May you know and feel His love and may your family and your extended family bring some comfort at this time.

Blessings,
Yi-An & Yoke Mei; 26 March 2008 3:33 PM
amyanne said...: Kristy,

I am so sorry for your loss...I am just so sorry. I can offer you no comfort but that I will be praying for you.

Watch this when you are able: it may help, it may not...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OIahCHRSRjI

Amy; 26 March 2008 3:33 PM
David said...: Dear Heavenly Father, I come to you in the name of your son, Jesus, and ask that you would be a comfort to this dear daughter of yours. You alone know the depths of anguish she is going through, and you alone can give her the strength to face each new day. May she realize that you had to watch your Son die as well, that your love embraces her always. In that embrace may she find rest and peace.

God bless you.
David; 26 March 2008 3:34 PM
Matt said...: Kristy,

I sat down to write a memorial post for Steve this morning and cried my eyes out. There is nothing that we can say that will take the pain away but we are thinking of you and praying that you may feel God's arms around you...(even if that feeling comes through those he has placed around you at this time). I don't understand God's plan in it all either!; 26 March 2008 3:43 PM
Natti said...: Kristy,
I am a friend of Ali's and we have been praying for you since Sunday. I am so sorry for your loss, and can not imagine the pain you must feel. But God knows. I too can understand how something like this must really stretch your faith. Of course we can't explain why, but I hope that in time you can come to trust God again and know that His will is perfect, somehow.
Continuing to pray for you and your family and friends.
Nat Mardon; 26 March 2008 4:08 PM
Mandy Owens said...: Kristy... I love you... I'm so so so sorry.; 26 March 2008 4:22 PM
Ashlea said...: Kristy,
My name is Ashlea. I am friends with Julia and Timmy and i am James' girlfriend. I would just like to say that i really feel for you right now. It must be really difficult. I would also like to say that you and your whole family, and Stephen's family are in my thoughts and prayers.
I really am truly sorry, and i could probably not understand the amount of pain that you are feeling right now. I will continue praying for all of you and you will all continue to be in my heart and thoughts.

Love Ashlea; 26 March 2008 5:21 PM
blogger@tampabay.rr.com said...: I pray God's consolations will abound in your loss, that He will somehow soften the blow, and give you hope for tomorrow. My heart goes out to you in your sorrow. I weep with you. ~~jocelyn; 26 March 2008 7:02 PM
Karen L said...: Kristy,
I am also a friend of Ali's and we have been praying for you since Sunday. I cannot begin to imagine the pain you must be feeling right now. My heart truely aches for you but I want you to know that I am also standing in the gap and will continue to stand in the gap and pray for you and your family. Although at a time like this, God seems a million miles away He has promised that He will never leave us or forsake us and I pray that His love washes over your soul and gives you the comfort you so desperately need at this time. May He carry you and comfort you as no one else can.; 26 March 2008 8:52 PM
Celinoooo said...: Sending lots of postive thoughts your way.
Big hugs to you!; 26 March 2008 10:04 PM
jubilee said...: Kristy,
I will be praying for you and your families.
"Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on thee because he trusteth in thee." Isaiah 26:3
Jubilee; 26 March 2008 10:48 PM
Kaz said...: Kristy, You are precious, and loved, and just see how many are praying for you! Praise God for the gi-normous family he has placed us all in!
our meetings have been few and brief, but know u are in my prayers and in my heart; 26 March 2008 10:57 PM
Roel and Leny Velema said...: Oh Kristy!

Our hearts cry with you, hardly knowing what to say, just to mourn with you! What an arrest of all the human expectations you and Steve had!

Fortunately, there is another One who is crying with you. The Lord wept when Lazarus died, and the Lord wept when Steve drowned. “In all their affliction He was afflicted, and the Angel of His presence saved them: in His love and in His pity He redeemed them; and He bare them, and carried them all the days of old” (Isa. 63:9).
What a promise to carry you through! His presence, love and pity is with you to redeem you and to guarantee the desire you and Steve had to keep God central in your lives. You both testified that you could never had made it this far without Him. But you also know that you will never make it without Him in all the tomorrows to come. But His promise to you is that He will carry you all the days to come, and you both will testify in the future, when you see Steve again: “He carried us all the days of old”.; 26 March 2008 11:00 PM
Robin Bayne said...: So sorry to hear this! Sending prayer and warm fuzzy thoughts your way.; 26 March 2008 11:58 PM
april penny said...: Oh, Kristy, my heart aches for you. I wish that I had words to say that would comfort you... Please know that you are in my prayers.; 27 March 2008 12:05 AM
Crystal Paine said...: There are no words, Kristy.

But I will be praying--often.

Much luv,
Crys; 27 March 2008 12:18 AM
Debrand said...: He is faithful. Even though we may turn away, He won't. He's waiting for you when you are ready. He's right by your side. Even through this loss, He's with you and He won't hold it against you.; 27 March 2008 12:18 AM
Jamie said...: As a sister in Christ you are in my prayers!; 27 March 2008 12:31 AM
Amy Ragland said...: I'm so sorry to hear this! I will be keeping you in my prayers!; 27 March 2008 12:32 AM
Mrs. Walker said...: This post has been removed by the author.; 27 March 2008 12:34 AM
Mrs. Walker said...: Dear Kristy,

I wrote one comment already and decided not to post it--too many words.

Just know that someone you've never met is grieving for you and praying that God would hold you and comfort you as no one else can right now.

With many tears and many more prayers,
Rebekah in Texas; 27 March 2008 12:38 AM
Anonymous said...: We don't know each other, but we both know the same Father. So, sister in Christ, I'm aching for and praying for you.

Kitten; 27 March 2008 12:42 AM
Kacie said...: You are in my prayers. I am so very sorry :(; 27 March 2008 12:45 AM
Patty said...: I am so very very sorry. I am and will pray for you often. I wish there was something I could do to ease the pain but I know there isn't so I will pray that God mends your broken heart.; 27 March 2008 12:46 AM
Tamara Tilley said...: I am a FIRST member in California and have heard of your tragedy. Words cannot express the sadness I feel for you and I understand the distance you might feel with God right now. But I pray, He will become your comforter, healer, and helper in the months to come. My sincerest sympathy.; 27 March 2008 12:47 AM
Fruitful Vine said...: I just read about you on Cyrstal's blog today. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Just wanted to let you know that I prayed for you. God is still on the throne and in control. Take care.
Jenn; 27 March 2008 12:56 AM
lovedandamazed said...: I was directed here by a friend, and I will be praying for you, Kristy. For there to be Light in your darkest night. I am praying...; 27 March 2008 12:56 AM
Lori said...: Kristy, we don't know eachother, but I read about what happened on Crystal's blog and I just wanted to tell you that I'm so very sorry. You are in my thoughts today.; 27 March 2008 1:05 AM
Michele said...: Kristy,
We do not know each other. I found you thru Crystal. I am so sorry for your loss. I am praying for you at such a difficult time, that God will hold you in the palm of his hand and comfort you as none of us can.
Many prayers~
Michele; 27 March 2008 1:06 AM
Megan at My Heart, My Home said...: Kristy, I just happened upon your blog via Biblical Womanhood and I am so sorry for your loss. Your description of your husband's love languages and his support moved me. Please know that you will be prayed for. Psalm 34:18, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed."; 27 March 2008 1:08 AM
Andrea said...: Kristy -

We may not know each other, but we have the same Father. My heart just breaks for you, I cannot begin to even say that I know how you feel, or to offer you comfort. All I can think of is the lyrics to Abide in me, as others here have posted...

"...When darkness deepens, and all comforts flee, Help of the Helpless, Oh, abide with me."

Know that I'm sitting at a computer in Wisconsin, crying with you and your family at this time. But oh, what a time for your husband to rejoin the Lord he loves so much! We're praying for you in our family!; 27 March 2008 1:10 AM
Jessica said...: Dear Kristy,

I pray that you would be reminded of God's love and care for widows: "and let thy widows trust in me." Jer. 49:11.; 27 March 2008 1:10 AM
Adam Blumer said...: Kristy, I only know of you through the Christian Fiction Blog Alliance. Words fail to know what to say. All I know is that God is good, even in life-shattering events. He will sustain you through this loss. I am praying for you.; 27 March 2008 1:11 AM
Anonymous said...: I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you even though i don't know you personally - you are a sister in Christ. Tragedy never makes sense- I pray you'll have peace and grace to handle this.
Vicki, Pensacola, FL; 27 March 2008 1:14 AM
In Light of the Truth... said...: Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry about your loss!! My heart breaks for you!! I'm praying!

Dear God, please be with Kristy and her family. Comfort them and give them the strength that only You can provide. Fill their life with many little blessings to make each day a little brighter. Wrap them in Your Love and help them to continue to see the goodness of You and Your Plan. Amen.; 27 March 2008 1:17 AM
Elizabeth said...: Dear Kristy,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of you and praying for you.; 27 March 2008 1:19 AM
Sheri said...: I just want you to know that I'm praying for you today my dear sister in the Lord... So many are praying for you.; 27 March 2008 1:20 AM
Simple Family Supper lady said...: Kristy,
I know there are no words to help right now.... know you are in my prayers!!!
Heather; 27 March 2008 1:29 AM
Mama Russell said...: Kristy, I send you much love as a sister in Christ. I am so truly sorry.; 27 March 2008 1:34 AM
Darlene said...: The CWO community is praying for you during this time. We pray for comfort, understanding and the healing of your heart.; 27 March 2008 1:36 AM
AmyG said...: I'm so extremely sorry to hear about your lost. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. The Bible says that He will bring "peace that passes all understanding"...I pray that for you and your family right now.
I can't even begin to imagine the pain and loss you are feeling at this time.; 27 March 2008 1:42 AM
Amber said...: I send you love as a sister in Christ. Jesus is holding tight to you. I am praying for you!; 27 March 2008 1:43 AM
Kiki said...: Kristy, I am praying for you in Miami.; 27 March 2008 1:50 AM
Dawn said...: Sarah shared your story on her blog. So sorry to hear of this tragedy. I pray for God to grant you the strength to face the future, as I am sure He will be holding your hand.; 27 March 2008 1:51 AM
Mom of Faith said...: My church, my family and I are are praying for and with you during this time of tragedy. My heart is with you.

In Jesus name.

Amanda; 27 March 2008 1:52 AM
Melissa said...: i was directed to your blog from biblical womanhood. just wanted to express my heartfelt thoughts to you as you face difficult weeks, days, hours, minutes, and seconds.; 27 March 2008 1:54 AM
Jessica said...: Kristy, I know you bot but you seem to be my sister in Christ. Many blessings to you today, tomorrow and next week. And more. I know the pain of loss. Acutely. God is bigger. "...underneath are the everlasting arms."; 27 March 2008 1:58 AM
Anonymous said...: Kristy, I found your blog through Amanda at Following an Unknown Path. Even though we have never met, we share a faith in the Living God. I can't begin to understand His plan when we go through desperately hard times, but I take comfort in knowing that He indeed is sovereign and loves you with a perfect love. I just stopped and said a prayer for you. May God comfort you in the next months as you go through this valley.; 27 March 2008 2:10 AM
Rob and Erin said...: I found you through Biblical Womanhood. I will be praying for you during this difficult time. May God give you strength to get through it.

Erin; 27 March 2008 2:22 AM
Kansas Mom said...: May God bring you and the other families comfort and peace and may He welcome your husband with open arms.; 27 March 2008 2:22 AM
Rachel Hauck said...: Kristy,

Saw the announcement of your husband on CFBA.

My heart goes out to you! I am so sorry and sending you cyber hugs.

Am praying for God's amazing grace and mercy to touch your heart. I know these days are difficult, hard, long and confusing.

You are not alone, but in our hearts and minds. And His.

Blessings!
Rachel Hauck; 27 March 2008 2:23 AM
~ Brandilyn Collins said...: Kristy, I just heard through CFBA. My heart aches for you. With you. I will be praying for you. May you feel God's tangible presence even through the darkest days.; 27 March 2008 2:26 AM
Anonymous said...: Hi,
I am not normally one to leave comments on a blog, but I feel led to share this with you.

http://site.shepherdchurch.com/app/w_page.php?id=31&type=section

The link is to the sermon our pastor preached last Sunday (the 23rd). I know you may not feel like listening right now... you'd rather curl up in bed sobbing and hide. But please give it a listen. I think it may really help you with perspective. It was a great help to me after just losing my little boy (who never had to experience living in this sinful world - God called him home while he was still in the womb). I can't imagine what kind of pain you must be experiencing, but I do know that God is GOOD - all the time! He is completely soveriegn over everything, and He will be glorified in your husband's death and -hopefully- in your response to it. Let your heart and life glorify Him in everything - even this. He does love you and will work all things together for good.

I don't know you, but I love you as a sister in Christ. My heart breaks for your loss, but rejoices knowing that your husband is now experiencing the FULLEST joy - worshipping our Father, singing and dancing with the angels because it is the only possible response he can have while in Christ's glory. Please email me if you just need to chat or if you have any specific requests for prayer. For now, I am praying for peace and comfort and a spirit that is trusting, humble, and accepting - not bitter. That you will be able to bring Christ glory through your words and actions.

He has got people's attention, and everyone is watching you. Praise Him even when - especially when - it hurts.

many, many hugs,

Kyla Curell (kylacurell05 at gmail dot com); 27 March 2008 2:26 AM
Rachel said...: I am praying for you in CA. I pray that God will wrap his arms around you and you feel that peace that passes human understanding. May you feel him closer than ever.; 27 March 2008 2:27 AM
Christy Lockstein said...: I am praying for you and your family. I am without words, I'm so sorry.; 27 March 2008 2:32 AM
HeatherHH said...: I came to you through Crystal's blog....

Lord, I pray that you would give Kristy Your peace, Your strength, Your comfort, and Your grace. May she trust in You through this trial. May her faith be strengthened, and may she blessed by others from the body of Christ.; 27 March 2008 2:33 AM
Sarah Ann said...: I heard about this from Crystal on Biblical Womanhood. My family and I definently will be praying much for you. Remember, our God is the God of ALL comfort (2 Cor. 1:3-11).; 27 March 2008 2:36 AM
Coffee Beans and more....... said...: Kristy, this is the first time I have visited your site. I am so sorry to learn of your great and precious loss. You are in my continued prayers. Just know that even in the darkest valley God is still in control. Words seem so empty at a time like this but God is still your strength and He can provide great peace at this dreadful time of sorrow.

Blessings to you.; 27 March 2008 2:36 AM
Anonymous said...: Kristy,

I am sorry to hear about this and will be praying for you daily. May you find comfort in God.

Janet, in Florida; 27 March 2008 2:37 AM
happygeek said...: Praying for you in Canada.; 27 March 2008 2:38 AM
Anonymous said...: Kristy,

Praying for you--that God will tightly wrap His arms around you that you might be totally aware of His sustaining grace. By His grace alone will you survive this tragedy. Plead for that grace. He will give it.

We are so frail as humans. So needy. So unable to understand the ways of a Great God. So needy. So limited. But so loved. And so understood by that same God who knows our frame that we are but dust. You will not be alone. He will never leave. He was the only one not caught by surprise by this tragedy...and has been preparing you for it even though you did not realize it. He promises to not give you more than you could handle by His grace.

May the darkness of suffering magnify the light of His truth to you.

You dear soul...may God sweep you up in the tightest of hugs and may you cry on His shoulder the deepest of your woe and agony.

Bless you, dear Kristy.

a daughter of the Heavenly Father; 27 March 2008 2:41 AM
Patricia W. said...: Kristy, my heart aches for you, both for the loss of your beloved husband and for your strained relationship with the Lord.

Praying for you truly.

Fellow FIRST member,
PatriciaW; 27 March 2008 2:44 AM
Kate said...: Kristy,

You don't know me, but I came to your site through Crystal's. I'm praying that the Lord will pick you up in His strong arms and carry you through this horrific time.

~Kate~; 27 March 2008 2:46 AM
Margaret said...: I came here from Crystal's as well- just wanted to let you know I'm praying for you!
Margaret; 27 March 2008 2:49 AM
Cee Cee said...: Keep God close. I'll be praying for you. Just hold on.; 27 March 2008 2:49 AM
Terry said...: I can't imagine what you are going through. But I know that God does and I pray His comfort for you during this awful and challenging time.; 27 March 2008 2:49 AM
Anonymous said...: Dearest Kristy,

I don't know you...but may I comfort you and tell you that if you are a child of God, then you can NEVER be on strained terms with God. We may feel like we are, but if we are in Christ He only sees Christ's righteousness and not our own failures and faults. You can boldly approach His throne. Oh how He wants to hold you tightly right now. He isn't standing there pushing you away because of anything you have done or not done. If you belong to Christ then plead His righteousness and throw yourself into the arms of God. He will never cast you out. You can never be condemned.

Bless you. What agony He has chosen to bring you through.

May you cling to His truth by His grace.; 27 March 2008 2:50 AM
Brea said...: So many prayers for you, unknown Sister. My heart breaks for your loss. I am so, so very sorry.; 27 March 2008 2:56 AM
b4Jesus2 said...: Kristy I am a reader of Biblical woman blog and I want to let you know from NC that I am praying for you.

Pam; 27 March 2008 2:57 AM
kalea_kane said...: I don't know you, Kristy, but my heart goes out to you. You will most assuredly be in my prayers. Tend to your heart and soul, dear Kristy. There are many who will stand up and pray for you.

In Him,

Kelly; 27 March 2008 3:01 AM
Amy said...: Praying from Chattanooga, TN through my tears for you. May you feel God's love in a way you have never experienced before while you walk this painful road.; 27 March 2008 3:02 AM
Laura said...: Dear Kristy,

Like many others I read of your tragedy at Biblical Womanhood. I am praying for you in California. I am so very sorry for your great loss.

Sincerely,
Laura; 27 March 2008 3:04 AM
Melissa said...: Dear Kristy,

I just read of your tragedy from Crystal at Biblicalwomanhood. I am praying for you, my sister in Christ, all the way from Middle Tennessee.

In tears & sympathy for your loss,
Melissa; 27 March 2008 3:07 AM
REAL ME said...: Prayers are sent your way. I am so sorry for this tragedy.; 27 March 2008 3:10 AM
Laura Leigh said...: Kristy:
I read of your loss on the Biblical Womanhood blog. I am saddened for your loss and please know I will be praying for you here in Dallas, TX.
Blessings,
Laura Leigh; 27 March 2008 3:11 AM
Anonymous said...: dear kristy,

Jesus suffered the worst of pain on the cross, and He understands more than any of us what you are suffering. He intercedes for His own constantly (Rom. 8) so cling to Him.

You need never feel you can't approach God or that things with Him are strained. Jesus already took care of your relationship with Him on the cross. If you have sin or anything you are holding in your heart, simply confess and forsake it. God is waiting arms outstretched to comfort His little child.

Blessings to you, dear one.; 27 March 2008 3:13 AM
Katie said...: May our God and Savior be especially present with you now. I am praying for you. The Bible story my son and I read just this morning was "Love God when you Hurt" ~ it was a passage from Job, chapters 1 and 42. I cannot begin to imagine what you must be going through, but I will go to the One in prayer who knows your needs and can meet them abundantly.

Many prayers for you ~
Katie in WI, USA

May these Words encourage you:
Psalm 119:76
Psalm 31:24
Psalm 25:5
Matthew 5:4
2 Corinthians 1:3-5; 27 March 2008 3:14 AM
Anonymous said...: I am praying for you.; 27 March 2008 3:15 AM
Jeannine said...: Kristy, we've never "met" in the blog world before, but I wanted to let you know that I am praying for you.
((HUGS)); 27 March 2008 3:16 AM
Anonymous said...: I just wanted to say it's okay to be angry. God gave us that emotion, you do not have to be perfect right now. Feel everything you need to feel and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

No one knows what you are going through unless they have gone through it themselves.

Take each minute & moment at a time. There will be many days that it is all you can do. And grieve as long as you need to. God will understand.; 27 March 2008 3:26 AM
aruna said...: Kristy I have no words to express in what to say. Just know that Jesus is with you in the loneliness you are in right now.Keep Phil 4:13 in your heart and minds constantly I know it will help you thru as you begin another chapter of your life, I know you will be a blessed to many. Love you in Jesus.

Aruna; 27 March 2008 3:27 AM
Rebecca R. said...: Kristy--Just came over from Crystal's Biblical Womanhood blog--wanted to let you know that you have yet another person praying for you in this time! Hugs from a stranger!; 27 March 2008 3:31 AM
Anonymous said...: Yet Will I Trust Him, Job 13:15. "A child of God is not expected to be a stoic, for God's grace takes away the heart of stone. When we endure trials, we feel the pain. Do not ask to be made hard and callous, for this is not how grace works. Grace makes us strong to bear trials, but we still have to bear them. Grace gives us patience and submission, not stoicism. We feel, and we benefit by the feeling. There are some who will not cry when God chastens, and there are some who will not yield when God strikes. Do not be like them! Be content to have Job's suffering heart (Job 1:21). Feel the bitter spirit and the anguish of soul which racked that blessed partiarch. My dear friend, when grief presses you to the dust, worship there! Remember David's words, "Pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us." Ps 62.8. Turn your heart upside down, empty it, and let every drop run out. When you are bowed down beneath a heavy burden of sorrow, worship and adore God there. In full surrender to His divine will, say with Job, "Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him" Job 13:15. This kind of worship subdues the will, arouses the affections, stirs the whole mind, and presents you to God in solemn consecretation. This worship sweetens sorrow and takes away its sting." C.H. Spurgeon - Beside Still Waters

I will be praying for you as you endure this tragic trial. Kellie; 27 March 2008 3:44 AM
Melinda said...: You don't know me but I wanted to let you know that I grieve with you and will be praying for you and your family

Melinda; 27 March 2008 3:49 AM
Anonymous said...: Yes, God did give emotions like anger, etc. And He is also the One Who gives the trials.

He knows.; 27 March 2008 3:58 AM
Sherry said...: I found you through Biblical Womanhood.

I just want you to know that you have my deepest sympathy.

I will be praying for you!

Sherry; 27 March 2008 3:58 AM
Kacy said...: Crystal had a link to your site and I just had to come over to tell you that my heart is aching for you. I teared up as I read your post. I have said and will continue to say a prayer for you and your family.; 27 March 2008 3:59 AM
Mary said...: I am so sorry! I have no idea what to say except that I will be praying for you often.; 27 March 2008 4:00 AM
Candace said...: Kristy, I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. These things don't make sense. I lost my 25-year-old brother to suicide 6 months ago, and the pain is not subsiding. I do believe prayer will help you, and I commit to praying for God to comfort you for the next 30 days. Lean on those who love you.
I've also found comfort in the daily emails offered here
www.griefshare.org
and there are also support group listings. It is Christian and bible based.
One thing that losing my brother has taught me is to focus on the eternal.
Love in Christ,
Candace; 27 March 2008 4:02 AM
Joyce said...: Also directed here from Crystal's blog.

In reading this morning, these quotes touched my heart...may they bless yours ~

What a joy our memories may be or what a sorrow! But glad or sad they are with us forever. Let us make them carefully of all good things, rejoicing in the wonderful truth that while we are laying up for ourselves the very sweetest and best of happy memories, we are at the same time giving them to others. Laura Ingalls Wilder speaking of the passing of her mother in 1924(Little House in the Ozarks)

Our sorrows have been the heralds of mercies. Our griefs cannot mar the melody of our praise, for we reckon them to be the deep bass notes of our song. Charles Spurgeon, A Psalm of Remembrance

You are very loved, dear ~ in the thoughts and prayers orchestrated by Providence through people around the world...and paramountly in the intercessory thoughts and prayers of God via Jesus and His Spirit when His people can't begin to know the depths of the song of your heart. May He as the ever present Hope of those in the faith ~ in His perfect way and time, make even this...even this well with your soul.

{{{Hugs}}}; 27 March 2008 4:04 AM
Joy of Frugal Living said...: Praying for you! I'm so terribly sorry.

Jennifer; 27 March 2008 4:10 AM
Kane, Jana and Mara Kate said...: I don't know you, but am so saddened to hear of this. I will be praying for you. So, so sorry about this news.; 27 March 2008 4:11 AM
April said...: I found my way here from Biblical Womanhood and wanted to let you know that you and yours are in our family's prayers today. May you find peace and comfort in your memories.; 27 March 2008 4:12 AM
Toughnoodles said...: Praying for you!; 27 March 2008 4:13 AM
Kasie @ ~The Art of Life~ said...: My heart aches so deeply for you! I don't even know the words to say. Please just know that I am holding you up in sincere prayer. May God wrap His arms around you and hold you tight.; 27 March 2008 4:24 AM
Alicia said...: Oh, dear Kristy, rest assured that your brothers and sisters across the globe, many of whom you have never met, will be bringing you before our Father. The Spirit, too, intercedes for us when we are without words. ((hugs)) and many prayers from South Carolina; 27 March 2008 4:38 AM
TwoMuths said...: Found your story via Crystal's blog, and I am praying that the mighty hand of God will hold you up and that His arms will wrap you in comfort. I cannot imagine the pain and the questions you are experiencing. Love and prayers are all I have to offer.

Jenny in MI; 27 March 2008 4:40 AM
Lady-in-the-Making said...: Kristy,

I don't know you or your husband. I was referred here through Biblical Womanhood.

My heart is absolutely aching for you. I will pray, dear Sister.

Lots of love,
Alison; 27 March 2008 4:42 AM
storyline said...: Dear Kristy, I am a member of the CFBA, I live in Kansas. I see in these comments, prayers are going up for you from around the globe, I hope you find comfort. I can only imagine, the Lord looking at Steve and saying, "you need not worry, you left your sweet Kristy in the hands of the world, and they are calling on me in her behalf." You so quickly experienced the important moments of a life, your recent wedding, and the birth of a nephew, and now, this tragedy. I add one more prayer for you and the memory of Steve...Joleen; 27 March 2008 4:46 AM
Melissa said...: Kristy, I don't know you personally, but as a sister in Christ, my prayers and thoughts are with you. Just one day at a time...Let Him be your strength and find your good in Him today. We must bless His name when He gives and we must bless His name when He takes away. I pray your husband is with Christ. Much love in Jesus who has bourne our sorrows and our sins, Melissa; 27 March 2008 4:47 AM
Jessica in NY said...: Kristy, I was visiting Biblical Womanhood when I saw Crystal's post. My heart is shattered for your loss.

Christ loves you - He loves you for all Eternity, and He will not forsake you. We are all of us praying for you, begging our Savior to give you strength and peace.

A sister to you in Christ,
Jessica; 27 March 2008 4:57 AM
Anonymous said...: You don't know me, but I will be holding you in prayer.; 27 March 2008 4:57 AM
Melanie said...: Kristy, Though we do not know each other, we are sisters in Christ. I will be praying for you.; 27 March 2008 5:00 AM
Melissa said...: Kristy,

I too am a regular reader of Crystal's blog and was saddened beyond words at your news. While you have no idea who I am, and vice versa, I know that with you being a child of God, we will one day meet in Heaven. Cling to your God now and know that Jesus weeping right beside you.

I will stand in the gap and pray on your behalf. Hang in there.

Melissa Kaufman
Vancouver, Washington; 27 March 2008 5:02 AM
Sundi said...: I am a reader of Crystal's blog, and I want you to know that I am praying for you and that I am so sorry for your loss. Just lean on the Lord -- He will hold you.

Sundi; 27 March 2008 5:09 AM
Mikki said...: May God envelope you in HIS amazing love. I will pray for you as your Hope and Trust will lie in Him.

I found your blog through Crystals at Biblical Womanhood.; 27 March 2008 5:17 AM
Laura said...: I just found your blog and even though you don't know me, I just wanted to say that I will be praying for you during this difficult time.

Your sister in Christ in Oklahoma; 27 March 2008 5:21 AM
Ann'Re @ Home said...: Words seem so inadequate in times like this...but know that I'm praying for you. Ann in Indiana; 27 March 2008 5:28 AM
Christine said...: Though I have never met you, my heart is breaking. You WILL be in my prayers.

Christine; 27 March 2008 5:28 AM
Jendi said...: I also came to your blog through Crystal's Biblical Womanhood site.

I don't know what to say except that I'm praying for you right now.

I never met Steve in real life, but he will be remembered around the world now because of your blog.

May you feel God's loving presence in the days to come.; 27 March 2008 5:29 AM
Anonymous said...: I found this thru Biblical Womanhood. God bless your heart. I have no idea of your pain. I pray that God will comfort you and carry you through this. I pray that it helps just a small bit to know that your sisters in Christ around the world are praying for you and lifting you up in prayer.

Laura; 27 March 2008 5:32 AM
Jenny M said...: Hey Kristy ~ I don't know you, but I read what happened on Crystal's blog. I just wanted to tell you that my heart aches for you, and that you will be in my prayers.; 27 March 2008 5:34 AM
Mrs. Opper said...: Dearest Kristy,
My heart aches for your loss and your deep, deep pain. I learned of you and your loss via Crystal's blog (like so many others).

I wanted to let you know that I am, and will continue to be, praying for you. I know first hand the anguish you're going through; I lost my fiance` 12 years ago.

May the Lord comfort you like never before...

With love,
Denise; 27 March 2008 5:37 AM
Melissa said...: I have no word and nothing to say to ease your pain, but I am praying for you during this awful tragedy. God bless you and your family, and may He comfort you.; 27 March 2008 5:39 AM
Anonymous said...: I will never leave you nor forsake you. Joshua 1:5
You are in my prayers and so many others.
I know that much comfort comes from those who have experienced similar losses. You may have heard of Darlene Rose of book Evidence Not Seen. She lost her husband, soon after marrying. She was greatly pained and wondered why, especially because she had been going through tremendous trials at that moment. In the end though it became the means to bring many to Christ through her hope and trust in God.
One Poem that encouraged her was this:
He Giveth More Grace
He giveth more grace. James 4:6

He giveth more grace when the burdens grow greater;
He sendeth more strength when the labors increase.
To added affliction He addeth His mercy;
To multiplied trials, His multiplied peace.

His love has no limit;
His grace has no measure;
His pow'r has no boundary known unto men.
For out of His infinite riches in Jesus,
He giveth, and giveth, and giveth again!

When we have exhausted our store house of endurance,
When we reach the end of our hoarded resources,
Our Father's full giving is only begun.

I know in our own strength it is not possible to have hope, peace, and joy in these situations, but through Christ living in you- He can do it right through you.

Love, a young sister in Christ; 27 March 2008 5:50 AM
Katie said...: Dearest sister in Jesus,

I do not know you, yet I read just now of your tragic loss on Crystal Paine's blog. My heart is grieving with yours. Please know that you will be in my prayers continuously and that many others who love you through Jesus will be praying for you as well. There is nothing really we can say or do to help, we can only pray that Jesus will lead you through this. Cling to the Cross like you never have before, dear sister!!! He is faithful and will lead you through these dark and difficult times.

Love,
Katie from WA state.; 27 March 2008 5:50 AM
Connie Reagan said...: Kristy,
I saw this thru the Biblical Womanhood blog...I am so very, very sorry...

One of my best friends lost her husband several years ago-from her experience I have learned that people will say stupid things, you WILL be angry at God, walking thru grief is the hardest thing you may ever do.

But hold on to this-it will NOT always be this bad. You don't have to believe this now. You don't have to believe it for a long, long time. But God WILL carry you thru this. Even when you don't see it. And it's okay for now if you don't see it.

I just felt you need to know that...may God provide a way for you to do what you need to do, day by day, moment by moment, and may HIs grace be on you.; 27 March 2008 5:57 AM
Anna said...: Praying for you in Illinois, that you may have God be your strength; 27 March 2008 5:58 AM
Keriann said...: Kristy,

I have no words. My heart aches for you. Please know that I have and will be lifting you up to our heavenly Father.

In Friendship and Love,
Keriann; 27 March 2008 6:03 AM

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